44 | February 2013 www.womanthismonth.com Multitasking Women, in general, are supposed to be able to multitask more effectively than men. Research shows that most men focus on one thing. For example, they watch television and find it difficult to answer questions or listen to other conversations. Is this a bad thing? Not really. They are living in the moment and concentrating on the one thing they wish to do. On the other hand, women need to know the consequence of this multitasking. We are never truly giving full attention to the other person or the task in hand. In short, it could be argued as quantity over quality. Decide what you metaphorically or physically want to switch off in order to focus. Quality communication Shared adventures, caring, memories as well as learning about each other are the foundations of close relationships. So, the old basics like cooking together with your child, walking the dog, telling stories of your past, sharing photographs or playing a board game really do still have their place. The good news is that by leveraging and using your on/off/ ignore button more often you can increase the quality of your special moments. The upshot The start of a new year is a great time to rediscover your relationship with life. This is about prioritising, exploring deeper and spending more time doing the things you love and to press the delete button on anything that does not keep you on this track. It is very clear cut. You are not programmed to do things 24/7. In contrast, you need to be passionate about your choices, spontaneous and surprising even. You need to have structure, of course, but by moving in ‘slow motion’ when you have the chance, you savour the moment, live in the present, and notice improvements and achievements. You grow and treasure your special relationships more deeply. Imagine the life your child can have if they focus on ‘now’ and on quality? What a great way to live and learn! Parenting
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